(**A lot of babble below about the blog, if you prefer the outfits only and could care less about my bloggity heart to heart – feel free to scroll down for an outfit post! 🤓 )
Hey all, I know, I know, I’ve been absent again! The “lull” I spoke about in my last post unfortunately continued for the last couple of weeks. I honestly felt like I needed to sit down and truly reflect on what this blog means to me and what my goals are moving forward. If you’ve taken a peek at the “about” section above, I originally started the blog a year & a half ago after all the inspiration I received from Pinterest, other blogs, magazines, etc. I wanted to learn to dress better for my workplace and feel more confident. I also loved the fact I had a “diary” so-to-speak of all my outfits!
When I first discovered other style blogs years ago (thanks Pinterest!), I had a long list of everyday favorites. Since then, that list has unfortunately dwindled. It used to be that most bloggers had everyday jobs just like the rest of us. Unfortunately, blogging has turned into a full-time job to some and with that comes lots of $$, sponsored posts, and un-attainable and un-realistic outfits (all my opinion of course). Bloggers that used to purchase affordable clothes and played with colors, trends, and prints are now wearing very similar (if not the same) types of items that all cost about 4 car payments. It’s not realistic, and although the pictures are beautiful, I find zero inspiration in a $500 pair of heels, and a huge, fluffy midi skirt that I could never wear in real life.
I also had to come to the realization that I will never be one of those bloggers. I’m short, slightly overweight, I have a very real job, a ton of student debt, a husband, and a goal was to always keep this blog very, very real. Have you noticed I never wear heels? That’s because I don’t own a single pair. I can’t wear them to work and wear wedges when I go out, so why have them in my closet?
Thanks to the discovery of GOMI (“Get Off My Internets”), I know I’m not the only one that feels that way! (It’s a hoot – you should check it out – basically all kinds of funny snark that most of us would never be brave enough to say, but we all think it!) A lot of readers express their annoyance with the movement in blogging and how unattainable and unrealistic things have become (some of it’s also downright mean… but entertaining… or I’m slightly evil LOL).
So, I sat down and realized I have a couple of options. A) Shut the blog down… or B) Make a statement and although I may never replace my income with this blog, I can find satisfaction in that I’m true to who I am, what I wear, and hopefully inspire those that want to read a blog by someone just like them!
I do shop at the same stores over and over and over, but there is a reason for that. They are affordable (Sales, rewards, and free shipping! What’s not to love?), obtainable (have you read the return policy for some boutiques? Sometimes you either can’t return an item… or you have like 7 days… no thanks, when I can get the same item from Banana and have 45 days to return it to my local mall!), and I feel relatable to my readers. Those big box brands are easy to work with, and you can always find the item on sale. Sure, no one wants to wear the exact same outfit as someone else, but that’s where I need to be more diligent about providing you “similar” items, versus only the original. I totally get that some people may hate the way J. Crew items fit them and find it much easier to shop at places like Macy’s or Kohl’s — I feel that way about certain brands also!
After much consideration on what my goals and inspirations are, I do want to continue with the blog – very much so! I just needed to re-focus on what is important to me in regards to this blog (being relatable!) and what direction I want to head in. It truly is all about inspiration. I want to be more transparent about where my outfit ideas come from and also pass along new bloggers and favorites I find along the way — because like I said earlier, some of the bloggers I used to follow have long been deleted!
If you made it til here, I truly appreciate your support and thank you for reading my blog. If I could provide an “upgrade” for you, in addition to providing more inspiration, it would be to take more aesthetic photos. I’ve said in the past I would love to take photos outside; as much as I roll my eyes at the Chloe bag other bloggers are carrying these days, their pictures are very pretty! #goals
Anyway, thanks for making it this far and below I have a new outfit post. Enjoy!
When I search for inspiration photos, I always pick out one piece in my closet and go from there. I found the picture of Reece Witherspoon below (love her style!) on Pinterest. I don’t own a yellow bag or flats, so used this yellow necklace instead, paired with other neutral accessories. My skirt is old, but I found several other blue & white printed skirts that would work just as well! My top is also old, but LOFT brought out a near identical dupe this season – one of my favorite easy tops to piece with just about everything.